- A Paul-someone who pours into your life
- A Barnabas-a peer who challenges and encourages you and who holds you accountable.
- A Timothy-Someone (probably younger, at least in the faith) into who you are pouring your life.
This week, I read Ike Reighard’s post on Four Types of Friends Every Pastor Needs.
Study after study shows that most pastors, while they have lots of acquaintances with whom they are friendly and colleagues, have no friends. (I am not counting one’s spouse in that list-Reighard says some helpful things re: one’s wife as best friend & the dangers it brings).
The Developer-”Your best friend will always be the person who brings out the very best in you.”
The Designer -“We tend to think of mentors as a personal, hands-on coach. The Latin and Greek define them more as “advisors” or “wise men.”… The designer mentors us in our marriage, ministry, child-rearing, civic involvement, business acumen, or any area where we need a model.”
The Disturber-“We need friends who will shake up our status quo. Disturbers ask us difficult questions, forcing us to take a closer look at motivations and ambitions.”
The Discerner -“In a lifetime of relationships, perhaps only a handful of people are willing to play this vital role because it requires mutual vulnerability. More popularly known as accountability partners, discerners bring the gift of spiritual insight into our lives. They know how to speak the truth in love. They know how to exhort and rebuke, seeking to keep their friend on the right track. They are also vulnerable—the true friends who will walk into the room of your life while everyone else is walking out.”
Find the complete article here.